Enneagram Unconscious Childhood Messages

The Unconscious Childhood Messages are an area of the Enneagram where healing and growth can take place. Once we become aware of our internalized narratives, we can identify areas in our lives where they may be hindering us from emotional and relational health. If you haven’t before, take some time to pause and reflect with these questions, journal or talk to a friend about them. It may be helpful to work through this in a therapy or spiritual direction setting.

Unconscious Childhood Messages

Type One: It's not ok to make mistakes.

Type Two: It's not ok to have your own needs.

Type Three: It's not ok to have your own feelings and identity.

Type Four: It's not ok to be too functional or too happy.

Type Five: It's not ok to be comfortable in the world.

Type Six: It's not ok to trust yourself.

Type Seven: It's not ok to depend on anyone for anything.

Type Eight: It's not ok to be vulnerable or to trust anyone.

Type Nine: It's not ok to assert yourself.

Journaling Prompts for Growth and Reflection

Does the unconscious childhood message for your type resonate with you? Or, if you are unsure of your type, which message resonates with you?

How has this message informed your actions/relationships etc. in the past? How is it influencing you in the present?

Once we acknowledge the unconscious childhood message, we can work on healing it. What is an affirmation or truth you can remind yourself of this week? For example: My needs are worthy of acknowledging and being met.

To Learn More

I was recently invited on the Enneagram + Yoga podcast (@enneagram.yoga) to discuss The Unconcious Childhood Messages with Christy and Kat. It is a two-part conversation. You can download to listen on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.